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When God Hand Picks Your Spouse


In November of 2011 I asked my mom when she thought I would get married. She said “next summer.” I said “YEAH RIGHT!”

As a Christian I believe that prayer is very important.  I believe prayer is where we find peace and comfort. I have always loved prayer but wished that I could actually hear God speak to me.  Sometimes I get discouraged when I feel like I am talking to nobody. I mean I know that He is there but I can’t see him or feel him. When ever I get discouraged I think back to the only time I truly heard God speak to me.

So when was this beautiful moment??

It was December 6, 2011. I was in my house all by myself after a long day of work. I decided that everyday after work I would go home and pray. 10 days earlier I had met the most wonderful man. He had spoken at my church and I could not get him off my mind.  I could barely remember what he looked like, but I could remember everything he said. Since that day at church we had been emailing back and forth. I remember feeling very nervous.  I didn’t want to be a distraction to him.  He was obviously a gifted man who had a bright future.  I knew that he came from a culture where they didn’t interact with women just for fun like they do here in America.  I wanted to keep talking to him but I was SO scared. I was anxious because I didn’t know anything about him besides his faith in God. I also was nervous because I didn’t have the best past. I had made some bad choices and I thought he deserved better than me.

Normally after work I would go hang out with my friends, but this week was different.  Each night I got home I would pray for Jaber. I prayed that God would bless him and that God would reward him. I prayed that God would give me wisdom. I kept asking God if I should stop talking to him, but I kept feeling peace about it. As the days passed I was getting more nervous. I felt like I needed an answer from God. I needed to know if this was going to be my husband. I had dated in the past and I knew that relationships either end in marriage or they just plain end. I did NOT want to hurt Jaber. I could tell he was interested in me and I did not want to even start the relationship unless I knew it was what God had for me.

On December 6, 2011 I finally got my answer.  I had been praying all night that God would calm my fears and answer me on whether or not I was supposed to marry Jaber.  I had so many fears like: what would my friends think? Would people think I was crazy? I knew that this was not the normal way to find your husband, especially in America. Finally I felt God whisper in my ear, “Isaiah 41:9-10.” I kept hearing it over and over again until finally I decided to look it up. I could not believe me eyes when I read it:

“You whom I have taken from the ends of the earth,
And called from its remotest parts
And said to you, ‘You are My servant,
I have chosen you and not rejected you.
‘Do not fear, for I am with you;
Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, surely I will help you,
Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand”

I immediately started crying. God had CHOSEN me to be his wife.  He chose me even though I felt like there were better people out there for him. He chose ME from the ends of the earth. I didn’t need to be worried about what other people would say or how people would react because my GOD was going to take care of me. I underlined the passage and wrote 12/6/11 in my Bible.

THEN WHAT HAPPENED NEXT??

Well after not talking to Jaber all day I received a short message from him. Guess what it said?? “Read Isaiah 41:9-10. I literally could not believe my eyes. If I was doubting at all that this was from God before…I definitely wasn’t doubting anymore. Apparently this had been Jaber’s favorite verse for the last 6 years and I had no idea. To top it off my mom emailed me later that night and said that she couldn’t explain herself but that she felt like I was supposed to marry Jaber. This was all SO crazy to me because my family had never said anything like this.

As I looked back on the situation I went through all my journals from the year before. I had prayed so specifically that God would lead me to the right man. I was so worried that I would marry the wrong person. I had been in relationships before that were not God honoring and I did not want to end up in those relationships again. I was so nervous that I steered away from guys to avoid relationships all together. In my journals I specifically prayed for a man that would simply love God and love me. I prayed for a man who would protect me. I even asked God for a man who would know from the very beginning that I was his wife so I wouldn’t have to go through the long drawn out dating thing again. All I wanted was to do it the right way. I didn’t want to break any hearts and frankly I didn’t want another broken heart either.

After that night I completely committed in my heart to follow God and to marry Jaber (if he would have me of course!). We went on our first date a week later, got engaged 6 weeks after that, and were married on July 21, 2012.

MY MOM WAS RIGHT!! 🙂

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God taught me that He had the best plans for me despite how unworthy I felt I was. God knew exactly what Jaber and I needed! We are so blessed. He also showed me that He does listen to my prayers. Every time I think I am praying to a wall…I remember that He is there listening!

LOVE to LOVE

Christie

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23 thoughts on “When God Hand Picks Your Spouse

  1. Christie: I am sitting here with joy overflowing my heart. I too, have been in failed relationships-mainly because they were not God sanctioned. I am old now (53) but I firmly believe that God is preparing my soul-mate for me! Just reading your story has renewed my hope that He has not forgotten that I sit here longing for a human man to love, and share my life and faith with.
    I am so happy you were patient and waited for the one God chose for you. I will be doing the same until the good LORD gives me peace in my singleness, or decides to enrich my life with another husband.
    One thing is for sure..I am not settling for just anyone..He has to be God sent!
    Thank you for sharing your happiness and devotion to the LORD.
    His Servant,
    Nicolette
    Tapestrytreasures.wordpress.com

    • You are the sweetest thing ever Nicolette…I REALLY admire your faith. God DOES hear you. He has great plans for you and I can’t wait to see what they are for your life 🙂

      Let’s be friends…I like you!!
      xo

      • Christie: I don’t often read my comments-forgive me for responding so late. I was just reading your blog last evening. Loved the photo’s. I see your family is growing! Yeah for you!! I admire your steadfast stand for His word. Keep in touch Sister!

  2. Just read a few of your stories. Love them all, very true and heart-warming. I’ll probably continue reading, as I can relate to many of them.

  3. Hey Christi,
    You don’t know me at all but I do love your story and how you met your husband. Congrats on allowing God and your faith guide you to the perfect man. Have to say the same happened to me as well, my husband knew he was going to marry me before we even went on our first date, he felt it while he was praying the night before…. luckily he didn’t tell me until months later or else there probably wouldn’t have been a second date.

    Thank you for sharing your story!

  4. Christie, I seriously have no words for this post. I’m shaking as I’m typing this. I seriously don’t know what to say.

    This part right here is exactly me to the T: “As I looked back on the situation I went through all my journals from the year before. I had prayed so specifically that God would lead me to the right man. I was so worried that I would marry the wrong person. I had been in relationships before that were not God honoring and I did not want to end up in those relationships again. I was so nervous that I steered away from guys to avoid relationships all together. In my journals I specifically prayed for a man that would simply love God and love me. I prayed for a man who would protect me. I even asked God for a man who would know from the very beginning that I was his wife so I wouldn’t have to go through the long drawn out dating thing again. All I wanted was to do it the right way. I didn’t want to break any hearts and frankly I didn’t want another broken heart either.”

    This is me. Praying for the right man and asking God to lead me to the right one because of the fear of marrying the wrong one. Not wanting to make that mistake I don’t want to make even if everyone around me is getting married. Doing it the right way, God’s way, because I don’t want to break hearts or have mine broken either. Avoiding relationships for the last decade because I want God to tell me loud and clear who He wants for me rather than who I want.

    This post. I can’t. Even.

  5. MMMm hmmmmm… Seriously just as crazy as Darby and my story. 🙂 God told me 3 years before we started dating that I could say yes to Him. Then through the majority of our friendship, I was to focus on being his good friend. I held on to that Day… and turned out the prayer he had prayed for the past 3 years, was to marry the girl that was his very best friend. 😉

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