Have you ever been labeled a hater, judgmental, close minded, or intolerant for simply having your own personal beliefs? I have been so frustrated lately by the amount of people being patronized when simply answering questions about their beliefs. If you ask a person a question and you want them to respond honestly…it’s unreasonable to get mad at them for their response unless they respond in a way that is unkind (which I realize happens all too often and for that I am sorry.) Simply stating your belief though, is not wrong. Each person should be able to have that freedom without being labeled negatively.
If a person believes that God intended marriage to be between a man and a woman…that alone does not mean they HATE those who believe differently. They believe that way because of their own personal convictions. As a Bible believing Christ follower, I have developed most of my beliefs and convictions from reading my Bible. I very much believe in God and I 100% believe that what the Bible says is true and I feel convicted to follow it. I realize that people interpret the Bible differently. I also realize you can’t expect everyone to view it the same as you do. It’s important to allow people to develop their own conclusions. So if you believe that homosexuality is permissible…I want you to know that I believe you have every right to believe so. I also would like the right to believe differently as well. I have realized that no matter how nicely I state my beliefs I am always labeled terrible things and it drives me crazy. I would ask that you take a look at the following hypocrisies that are all too often said when stating your beliefs. It’s important to allow the opposing side to have their beliefs just as much as it is for you to have yours. I would like to be able to have my beliefs about marriage without being labeled a close minded gay hater. Here are a few hypocrisies that have been said to me when I share my beliefs about different topics.
“”You are JUDGING me!”
(You now are judging me that I am judging you.)
“Don’t tell me how to live my life!”
(You are now telling me how live mine.)
“You are so close minded…”
(Wouldn’t that make you close minded as well for not being open to my beliefs?)
“You are such a hater.”
(You are now hating on me.)
“You have NO right to share your opinions“
(That’s an opinion…)
“You are incredibly intolerant.”
(You aren’t tolerant of my beliefs.)
“You can’t share your beliefs. It offends people.”
(You are offending me now while sharing your beliefs.)
Even though I hope that someday people would quit saying these hypocrisies…I have to realize that most likely they will not. Because of my beliefs, I will always be labeled these things by some. Today in life we have a double standard. For some groups of people they are able to freely share their opinions and if anyone disagrees with them they are suddenly treated as a victim and people jump to defend them. The opposing group, however, is labeled the list above…
The bottom line is that for a certain groups of people, unless you agree with them, you WILL always be labeled as judgmental and close minded.
To those labeled these things for having your beliefs… take heart, be kind, and be sure to share your beliefs in a loving way that is honorable. AND always remember…
“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated ME first.” -John 15:18
Love to Love,